“When you want the best advice, you go to the smartest people you know. Pat Miles is one of those people, and her story puts her in a unique position to offer honest, practical, and compassionate advice. This book is a blessing for survivors navigating the toughest days of their lives.” —Harvey Mackay, NYT #1 Bestselling Author of Swim With the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive
“For a culture that finds it difficult to talk about the end of life, Before All Is Said and Done is the roadmap we all need to navigate the practicalities of death while experiencing shock, loss, and grief.” —Lee Woodruff, NYT Bestselling author
The notion of planning for one’s death is intrinsically at odds with our human instinct to avoid considering our own mortality. Although we may contemplate the grief that our life’s impermanence would cause to our loved ones, we seldom consider the myriad of emotional and legal issues that can arise afterward.
Before All Is Said and Done begins with the experience of author Pat Miles Zimmerman and her husband, Charles “Bucky” Zimmerman. Pat and Bucky were fully set for life but, regrettably, not set for death. After Bucky’s death from an abrupt and short illness, Pat found herself with a plate full of unanticipated emotions, decisions, and legal problems.
But, as she spoke with other widows, she learned she was not alone in finding herself adrift after losing a spouse. The shock and grief that erupt from such a loss do not create a state of mind fit for navigating the numerous challenges that follow an unexpected death.
Pat Miles Zimmerman will prepare us for the oft-ignored problems that run in tandem with somber situations:
The shock of loss and what to expect
Facing a potential cognitive decline
Finding support and healthy grieving
Family disputes and blended family issues
Caring for yourself after the loss
Although we may initially shirk away from the notion of our life’s transience, it is powerfully beneficial to ready ourselves and our loved ones for every stage of life — and death. Before All Is Said and Done weaves the definitive path on how to be set for both.
“For a culture that finds it difficult to talk about the end of life, Before All Is Said and Done is the roadmap we all need to navigate the practicalities of death while experiencing shock, loss, and grief.” —Lee Woodruff, NYT Bestselling Author
“As a former lawyer and judge, I had neither thought about nor been intimidated by end-of-life financial issues. But Before All Is Said and Done paints vividly the difficult realities my wife could encounter should I pass first. The book’s read, and the understandably difficult discussions with your spouse and others, are musts for married couples.” —Rick Solum, Hennepin County Judge
“Preparing for and navigating the wealth management challenges of losing a spouse is a critically important topic not adequately addressed by the financial industry. Pat Miles does us all a service in tackling this head-on in her honest, moving, and compelling personal narrative.” —John Taft, Vice Chair of Baird and Author of Stewardship: Lessons Learned from the Lost Culture of Wall Street and A Force for Good: How Enlightened Finance Can Restore Faith in Capitalism
“Through Pat’s personal experience with many of these issues, she has compiled an extremely insightful and empathic view of the role of the caregiver. I think this is a must-read for persons and families with loved ones experiencing cognitive challenges.” —Ronald Petersen, PhD, MD, Director, Mayo Clinic Alzheimer’s Disease Research Center and the Mayo Clinic Study of Aging